“All my other Valentine’s Days sucked.” Harsh words from a recently divorced friend.
Her heart still hurts from the loss of her marriage, the loss of a dream. But no matter how unromantic her former husband was, disappointment could have been avoided.
Today I want to share with you three tips to help you avoid disappointment this Valentine’s Day.
Love bears all things [regardless of what comes], believes all things [looking for the best in each one], hopes all things [remaining steadfast during difficult times], endures all things [without weakening]. 1 Corinthians 13:7 AMP
First let me remind you that your husband loves you. He may not be the best at expressing his love. But let seeing the best in our men be the only assumption we make this Valentine’s Day.
Three Ways To Avoid Disappointment This Valentine’s Day:
1. Manage your own expectations. While I love a good romantic movie, they don’t often portray real life. It’s only in the movies that the date whisks you off to the opera or Paris in his private jet. In real life we don’t have script writers or movie house budgets to make our Valentine dreams come true.
Remember who your man is. If last year he barely mumbled “I love you,” a card this year would be a step in the right direction. Since we’re in this for the long haul, let’s allow him time to build up his Valentine’s Day savvy.
2. Discuss your expectations. Valentine’s Day is a week away. Let your husband know how to love you best. Make plans together for how this can be your best Valentine’s Day ever.
***While we’re on the subject . . . If your anniversary or birthday is coming up, make sure he knows what you expect. Remember your man loves you and longs to make you feel special. Help him out by reminding him what’s on the calendar.
3. Exceed his expectations. Instead of waiting to be blessed, seek out ways to bless your man. Make his favorite dessert. Surprise him with flowers. Greet him wearing something that will make his heart beat faster. ; )
Bonus: To avoid disappointment on February 15th, don’t compare your Valentines’s Day to those you see on social media. Those posts are a glimpse into their lives, not the full picture.
I pray these tips help you avoid disappointment this Valentine’s Day and that you have a day worth remembering.