After I told Tim the plant I had kept living for a year had taken a turn for the worse, he turned to me and said, I would rather you be a good cook who makes me yummy meals than have a home filled with greenery.
In that moment he could have commented on my brown thumb, even though the plant did survive over a year under my care and isn’t all the way brown yet. But instead, he chose to bless me with life-giving words and encourage me in my strengths.
“Words kill, words give life; they’re either poison or fruit—you choose.” Proverbs 18:21 The Message
In a moment I was feeling defeated over my poor gardening skills, his praise for my cooking abilities made my heart sing and put a bounce in my step. Just imagine what your praises could do for your man.
What are his strengths? Is your husband good with numbers? Can he fix anything? Does he have a way with words? Is he seeking God?
Whatever your husband’s strengths are find ways to affirm him in his abilities. Seek out ways to express how you appreciate and value him and his talents. And if possible, encourage and praise him in front of others.
What about his weaknesses? Maybe his weaknesses are your strengths and you balance each other out or maybe you know just the right person to call.
“The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit. He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord.” Proverbs 18:21-22
How appropriate that right after a verse on the tongue, God’s Word contains a verse on marriage. From our first words in the morning to our final good-night, our days are filled with opportunities as wives to speak life and blessing to our husbands. Choose wisely.
Let the words of your mouth be a blessing to his ears.
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