Thanksgiving is just barely over two weeks away, and we all have expectations of what the holiday “should” look like, and oftentimes reality is not what we had pictured in our head.
I love the commercials that air this time of year showing a large dining room table filled with delicious foods. The perfectly cooked turkey is carried out on a big platter to a large happy family all dressed in their holiday best.
Those commercials show a small glimpse, less than a minute of perfection. Then there are the glossy images in magazines and the Pinterest perfect pictures showing beautiful centerpieces, perfectly executed crafts, and appetizing recipes.
Added to all of those expectations, as a couple you will need to decide where you will be spending the holidays. Do you alternate where you will spend Thanksgiving, try to divide your time, or host the dinner yourselves?
My husband and I have had multiple discussions about our expectations this year and have had some “growth opportunities” over all things – the gravy. We both like a white gravy, so that’s not the issue. The issue is he doesn’t like “my” gravy, at least not every year.
“Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” Ephesians 4:32
Hopefully we’ll figure out a solution to our gravy problem before turkey day because even though I would like to think I’ve matured and would remain peaceful and forgiving, I’m quite aware how close I came last year to throwing the gravy in the trash and taking a very long walk. It doesn’t seem to help that the gravy is the last thing that is made because you need the turkey drippings to even start the gravy, and by that time it’s already been a long day of cooking and there’s an audience as dinner is about to be served.
Unmet expectations can lead to major frustrations.
So whatever thoughts or pictures form your Thanksgiving expectations take some time to discuss them with your husband because his expectations might just be different from yours. And a few growth opportunities before the big day might prevent a few disappointments on the big day.
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Rest in His presence.