What do we learn when a Christian marriage ends? One plus one doesn’t always equal two in marriage. You can say the right things, do the right things, and still find your marriage ending.
- Praying for your husband.
- Avoiding the “d” word.
- Continuing to date your husband.
- Reading marriage books or devotionals together.
- Being intentional to do things together.
We see Christian marriages ending and ask how we’re going to hold our marriages together when they couldn’t.
But one plus one doesn’t always equal two, even in a Christian marriage. Our efforts don’t always add up the way we want. We fall short and are desperate for God’s grace.
Most people who consider divorce know someone going through one. I did. When my husband and I struggled through our difficult season, my best friend went through her own season of heartache. Their marriage ended. And it made me think that mine could end too.
Why not? At times giving up seemed easier than all the work it took to stay together.
One plus one doesn’t always equal two. So why persevere through those difficult seasons? Why press forward?
Mother Teresa said it best in her poem “Do It anyway.” She says to forgive, be kind, do good, and give your best even when others are unkind, unaware, and all your efforts are not enough. Why? “In the final analysis, it is between you and God. It was never between you and them anyway.”
If your husband is unloving, love anyway. Forgive and continue to be kind. But we don’t have to do this in our own strength.
“And God is able to bless you abundantly, so that in all things at all times, having all that you need, you will abound in every good work.” (2 Corinthians 9:8, NIV)
Getting through that difficult season required leaning into God in a way I never had before. I experienced His faithfulness in new ways. His presence brought comfort. His grace enabled me to keep showing up even when things didn’t add up to the marriage I desired.
God gave me a fresh perspective for my marriage. One that enabled us to hang on and press through. We found that three was better than two!
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