Otter couples hold hands when they sleep. Those otters know something I didn’t. If you’re not working to stay connected as a couple, you’ll drift apart. Waking up to find you’re a wife who feels disconnected from her husband. Seeing you’ve become at best roommates and at worst strangers.
We didn’t do it on purpose. We were just living our lives.
The road back to one another seemed too great a distance. Those beginning steps were paved with loneliness and overwhelm. Could we really be friends again? Find our way back to one another?
In his book Dr. Emerson Eggerichs issued this challenge: “If he has closed you off and gone quiet, the way to draw him out is by simply being with him during some activity.”
The road back was bumpy. Two steps forward, one step back. But we regained what once was lost. And I pray, sweet friend, you will too.
But this prayer is for those first few steps. My heart goes out to you because I know how your heart breaks for what once was. For the dream that feels lost. For the distance between you that seems overwhelming.
A Prayer for the Wife Who Feels Disconnected:
Lord, thank You for my husband. Our marriage that once was.
You see how far we’ve drifted. The space that’s now between us. Help us to find our way back together again.
Give me an awareness of Your presence with me. Your presence that brings the assurance I don’t walk this journey alone.
Strengthen me in my weariness. Help me to stand strong when I feel weak. Because “those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength” (Isaiah 40:31a).
Help me to see our marriage is worth fighting for. We’re worth fighting for. But that it is You who fights for us (2 Chronicles 20:15).
Enable me to keep showing up. To keep trying. To keep believing.
Thank You for comforting me and wrapping Your loving arms around me. You are all I need.
In Jesus’ precious Name, Amen.